I haven’t written a serious column in a couple of weeks. Even though this one involves a funeral, this won’t be one either.
For those who don’t read this column each week – and I don’t blame you – we were recently on the planning-end of a funeral.
I used to have a buddy that was a funeral director, and I remember him talking about the business side of burying people.
I didn’t really pay that much attention to it, but I was impressed with how many different revenue streams surround a two-to-four-hour ordeal.
For example, you can purchase a commemorative DVD of your loved one. I can’t really think of why you would, but I don’t have a problem with having
the option. I am having an issue with
Here’s what happened. A handful of us were meeting with the funeral director. There wasn’t much to do because my grandparents preplanned their funerals about 30 years ago.
The funeral director said, “We’ll need a photo for the program.” I said no problem.
Then he checked off a few more things, and he asked who would handle the obit.
Again, I said no problem. I’ve written hundreds.
Then he said, “Oh, if you can, send me a handful of pictures to use in the slide show.”
I asked him how many he wanted. He said about 50. And once again I said, no problem.
I wrote the obit, collected the photos and emailed them off. He shot one back saying got them, and that was the last I thought about it.
The obit goes live, and momma gets a phone call.
Ever since cellphones came with the capability to function as a speakerphone, I don’t think anyone in my family has actually put a phone to their ear.
If we’re at a family gathering and someone gets a phone call, everything has to stop.
That’s the only way you can hear both parties, and we’d hate to be impolite.
I don’t know who momma was talking to. I was doing something else. All I heard was, “Oh and tell Jonathan he did a wonderful job on the video.”
Here’s the deal. I didn’t make a video.
I didn’t give it much thought until the 10th person said something about it. So, then I started correcting people.
In this business, we’re cautious about what we put our names on. Before I started working here, it was because we didn’t want to get yelled at for something someone else wrote and vice versa, but it’s just a good practice not to take credit for something you didn’t do.
Apparently, though, you’re not supposed to correct people during a viewing.
I get it, but I don’t think those people who told me not to ensure proper credit was given knew what was at stake.
I don’t want my family knowing I “make videos,” because then the next time there’s a family event, guess who has to work.